I love pictures. Don’t you?
My brother is an absolutely incredible photographer. The pictures he takes of my children I could stare at for hours on end.
And everybody has a camera. So, I find myself thinking how relieved I am that the “pressure” is off for mom to remember the events of her children’s lives.
But what does a camera actually capture? It’s just a split second we were all standing still (or not), that someone very talented can adjust to make it look like a perfect moment.
Pictures are great for us to remember events, great to share events with friends and family, great for our kids to know what they looked like at different ages. But pictures don’t tell our kids’ memories. They just really don’t.
We’re in an age where writing things down has gone by the wayside. I’ll post on fb how grateful I am for a gift or send a picture of my kids using a new toy instead of writing a thank you note. I’ll check a friend’s fb page for updates instead of writing a note letting them know I was thinking of them.
I’m definitely not trashing social media. It keeps us all more connected than ever was possible before. But the truth of the matter is, our kids won’t scroll through our facebook pages or twitter feeds when they are grown to see what their life was like. And nothing replaces a note in your mom or dad’s handwriting.
On the other hand, a scrapbook can be overwhelming with all the questions and dates and milestones. I often feel like I could never remember to write down every little thing the baby book asks me and the blank spots stare out at me, judging me. I don’t remember the date he got each tooth!!!!
Dear Oliver, today, 8/25/2013, you are 20 months old. I love the way you tell me “yeah sure” and it’s so hard that you now know how to hit your cousin when you’re angry. Love, MAMA!! XOXO
I’m hoping that I made this the right size so you can print it our on an 8.5″ x 11″ paper. Or you could resize it and fit two per page, or just use the idea and design your own, cuter version. In any case, keep it near your bed or at your desk so whenever you have a free moment, you can jot a note to your sweet ones. Give blanks to the Daddies, Grandpas, Grandmas, Aunt and Uncles in your kids’ lives (especially when they go to visit).
Keep filled ones in their baby book, medical record file, or even at the bottom of the pile of blank sheets.
You will be amazed at how much you forget and your child will have a gift of many memories that can’t be replaced by pictures; memories that will definitely fade as the years come along.
When it comes to a child growing into a person, I don’t think a picture actually does say a thousand words.